ENFP vs INFP, ESTJ vs ISTJ

Are you a delta extraverted or introverted type?

This is based on a Reddit comment where OP was Torn between ISTJ and INFP.

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Many ENFPs and ESTJs identify as introverted, because being an introvert means you avoid social gatherings, which a lot NeTe users tend to do. Ne perceives the present worldly picture, leading to attention that isn’t intensely focused but rather spread thin to capture everything. Additionally, Te is primarily concerned with systems rather than interpersonal dynamics. When NeTe functions are combined, they often produce individuals who are achievement-driven intellectuals. And we tend to associate these as introverts. So it can be confusing to figure if you’re a delta introverted or extraverted dominant.

First let’s see if you are indeed a delta type…which you would be if you feel precisely.

If you experience very intense clear and precise feelings and empathy, it means your Feeling function is paired with your Sensing function. If it was paired with Intuition, you would instead experience general "average" vibey moods. With Sensing, feelings are seen in high-definition 4K with all the nuances and details. And if your emotions, identity, and the way you like to go through the human experience overall appear to be coming from a subjective and proactive origin, that Feeling-Sensing pair would be introverted, FiSi—You would be a delta type.

• You might be an ENFP or ESTJ if you follow an unbreakable code and you’re analyzing emotions from afar.

If you’re an ENFP or ESTJ, Te lives in the center of your consciousness. It's all about making decisions based on Fi. You engage and shape your external world as your Fi sees fit.

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You can be one those who’s very tempted to react and springboard out to the world, you reflect and analyze if your actions matched your values after the fact. Or you can be more socially introverted in a Big5 sense, like you don't come out of the house until your Fi is all sorted. Putting out into the world when you’re not at your best feels irresponsible.

You understand that Fi has a very important fundamental influence on you. Fi stands as your moral code, like a Northstar observed from a distance. To be a good person is something to strive for, you spend so much energy doing Te things to meet those standards. Because of that, you can often forget to check with your feelings. It can lead to burning out, accruing unprocessed emotions, and doing things you didn't mean to. So it's crucial to do some needed self-care and maintenance.

I don't really "feel" my emotions in everyday life and usually tend to think or analyze the reasons why I feel something. I feel like somewhere deep inside me there is a very strong set of something that cannot be crossed.

For what's the difference between ESTJ and ENFP... If Fi is like the Northstar, the ENFP likes to explore around the world while always knowing where North is. In case you go astray or when the world gets too chaotic, you know where to head towards. Indeed, it's thanks from venturing out that you know exactly where North is, by also knowing where it's not.

The ESTJ on the other hand does not see any reason to venture anywhere but North. It's just not North! Not North means it's wrong, it means that's not who I am. Why do things outside of who I am?? This makes the ESTJ much more cautious and conservative than the more exploratory novelty chasing ENFP. So as an ESTJ, it's extremely imperative for you to ensure North is really North and your moral compass is really working.

• You might be an INFP or ISTJ if you have moral language over a moral code and you’re analyzing systems from afar.

To figure out how to feel or put a value on something—to evaluate—is a judgement made by Fi. As we’ve gone over above, ENFPs and ESTJs make that judgement pretty instinctively. It's as if the judgement has already been made and the feeling is rushed into their consciousness to be acknowledged. “This is right! This is who I am!” “This is wrong! This is not who I am!” Emotions and identity come together like horse and carriage.

If you’re an INFP or ISTJ, your ego stands in between emotions and identity. Fi is a judging process done consciously. There’s no such thing as having emotions to be acknowledged or not, because your whole reality is emotions. you don’t identify much by your opinions like the extraverts do, but more by the process of sorting them itself.

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Instead of analyzing from afar, you sit in your feelings regulating and sorting them around. The primary way of viewing life is by stoically accepting the world. We're all cogs in a TeNe wheel, living in a world of -isms, playing a role in it. Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react. What you have most control over is your attitude, mindset, and personal agency in shaping your experiences and outcomes.

Meaning is made by self-reflecting and developing your identity in relation to the world. "Something happened, what does that make me?" Looking at the TeNe grand scheme of things, there's an infinite amount of possible FiSi nuances worth evaluating to figure what's truly right and wrong. An INFP would add "how am I supposed to feel about this?" while an ISTJ would add "How deep is this feeling I'm having?"

I believe life itself is an invitation to build character regardless of what life actually is. By reframing how I perceive situations, I can maintain emotional balance and inner peace.

Feelings, values, and identity are viscous concepts you get to shape and mold. You'd get so deep within yourself looking at every feeling that you could lose sight of the external world. So instead of Fi feelings, it's the Te world that you stand from afar. You could say it's Te that "cannot be crossed." INFPs and ISTJs are logic driven, which can give them a stoic and tough exterior. This contrasts with the passion driven ENFPs and ESTJs who hold values etched in stone allowing them figure what's right and wrong from the get-go, and go off on behaving correspondingly.

Now it doesn't mean that you don't mind getting crossed reasoning yourself with whatever the world throws at you. It's just too stressful for you to engage with the outside world. You don't make the rules, and you don’t have to follow them if you don’t like them. So you stand disassociated demanding the systems and rules to be built smarter or more efficient. How you see it, that's the logical way. The system should just work. If the wheel is broken, go find another wheel. No need to reinvent it. And when you do find a system you like, it's all the more logical to stick with it long term. Why fix it if isn't broken?

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That’s it in a nutshell!

• If you’re an extraverted delta type, you like to interact with the world, it feels freeing to engage with Te. Your Fi tells you what you should be doing or not be doing.

• If you’re an introverted delta type, you like to build internal harmony. Happiness depends on your attitude, not on what you have. It’s all about how you look at your feelings and the world around you.

But again, we're all type fluid. We change depending on the situation. When push comes to shove, INFPs and ISTJs turn into ENFPs and ESTJs and do something about their situation. When there's nothing they can do, it's best for the ENFPs and ESTJs to turn into INFPs and ISTJs and find a way to accept fate. Growth happens when you turn into your other "you."