The irony is as a divergent subtype I often feel like my Ti is the hero or at least I find relief in it. Paradoxically (or is it?) I think being an extroverted type who pushes into the TiNi pairing more convergently stems from a disappointment with external reality...FeSe wasn't rewarded so I had to find another way 'to be' shutting myself off from a lot of external interaction for fear of being rejected. After ten years of the this divergent state, it almost feels 'common place'. Due to my FeTi being rated as 50/50 by Harry it might given people the false impression that I've come so far in my individuation process when, in part, it's a defence mechanism against being so disappointed or forming healthy relationships. Not that it's all doom & gloom; I do think a certain amount of trauma (what is trauma? We all have different thresholds etc) bolsters resilience but equally I do feel that pushing into the divergent pairing also serves to keep my Ni authority at bay. Meanwhile I'm anxious that I've never really fully committed to anything! Do you think that if one enters a more default ENFJ state that they retain the convergence of their TiNi or do you think there's a necessary trade off? I'd like to believe that as we cognitively expand we also bolster that which we have made conscious reality. Apologies for the not so related tangents! I've come to realise I've been the one, at times, who hasn't always given the best to other people...indeed I think there's a perception that the dominant is equivocal to competence & 'maturity' with that function when the reality is we have to fine tune it like any other function. I think in learning my own flaws I've tried in turn to be a little kinder to other people on an individual level (not groups en masse that perpetuate falsehoods although that's an entirely different subject altogether lol).
> Do you think that if one enters a more default ENFJ state that they retain the convergence of their TiNi or do you think there's a necessary trade off?
The irony is as a divergent subtype I often feel like my Ti is the hero or at least I find relief in it. Paradoxically (or is it?) I think being an extroverted type who pushes into the TiNi pairing more convergently stems from a disappointment with external reality...FeSe wasn't rewarded so I had to find another way 'to be' shutting myself off from a lot of external interaction for fear of being rejected. After ten years of the this divergent state, it almost feels 'common place'. Due to my FeTi being rated as 50/50 by Harry it might given people the false impression that I've come so far in my individuation process when, in part, it's a defence mechanism against being so disappointed or forming healthy relationships. Not that it's all doom & gloom; I do think a certain amount of trauma (what is trauma? We all have different thresholds etc) bolsters resilience but equally I do feel that pushing into the divergent pairing also serves to keep my Ni authority at bay. Meanwhile I'm anxious that I've never really fully committed to anything! Do you think that if one enters a more default ENFJ state that they retain the convergence of their TiNi or do you think there's a necessary trade off? I'd like to believe that as we cognitively expand we also bolster that which we have made conscious reality. Apologies for the not so related tangents! I've come to realise I've been the one, at times, who hasn't always given the best to other people...indeed I think there's a perception that the dominant is equivocal to competence & 'maturity' with that function when the reality is we have to fine tune it like any other function. I think in learning my own flaws I've tried in turn to be a little kinder to other people on an individual level (not groups en masse that perpetuate falsehoods although that's an entirely different subject altogether lol).
> Do you think that if one enters a more default ENFJ state that they retain the convergence of their TiNi or do you think there's a necessary trade off?
See https://open.substack.com/pub/robcpt/p/you-are-led-by-our-inferior-function?r=9vdcg&utm_campaign=comment-list-share-cta&utm_medium=web&comments=true&commentId=51957127
In short, it's not a zero sum game. You can still retain TiNi convergence with renewed pathways!